As for eyeshadow, first use a matte flesh color all over the entire eye lash line to brow bone.

Then, use a medium slightly shimmery shade all over the eyelid (I don't know her skin color, but for people who have light-medium skin tones Urban Decay in "Toasted" or Lancome's "Mannequin" are perfect colors for this).

Then use a dark shade on the outer corner of the eye and slightly in the crease, well blended. It should probably cover the outer 2/3rds of the eye.(a charcoal or black if she's wearing black, a chocolate brown if she's wearing nudes, tans, browns, a dark plum if shes wearing purples, etc.)

Use a matching eyeliner to the darkest shade over the entire lash line.

Remember: Dark colors "recede" (make something look "flatter or deeper") and light colors "protrude" (make something "stick out") so you never want to use light colors on the actual eyelid only. It will just make her eyes look even bigger Hope this helps!